It is a sad day in the Star Trek world. An icon has passed from the living into history, leaving us a powerful legacy.

Me and Trek, we’re the same age. I grew up watching and re-watching Star Trek, learning something new each time. I still watch it now, sometimes through the eyes of my son, and I still learn from it.

The character of Spock was frequently a source of those lessons, and such an enduring character that I am having a hard time comprehending that the actor that portrayed him – created him, made him indelible – is gone.

In a lot of ways, I related to Spock more than I related to any other character. Sure, Captain Kirk was dynamic and charismatic, a visionary leader. But his vision could rarely be fully implemented without Spock.

Kirk would say “I have an idea!” and Spock would say “This is how to do it.” I love figuring out how to do things, how to make ideas work. 

Spock relied on his intellect, reason, and a centered sense of self. He was loyal and honest to a fault. These are things I aspire to.

Some might argue that the character of Spock was not Mr. Nimoy’s alone, that without the genius of Gene Roddenberry imagining the character and the brilliance of the writers that gave the character his place in plot and dialog, there would be no Spock. That is certainly true.

However, you can have the most amazingly imagined characters, the most creative writing, the most impressive production values (ok, mediocre production values – but they got better!), and put it into the hands of an actor who can’t or won’t bring it to life, and all the rest is for naught.

Mr. Nimoy made Spock real, genuine, and unforgettable. Without that talent, nothing Spock did or said would have resonated or been remembered.

What I learned from Spock, the legacy that Mr. Nimoy left to me and others, are simple basic values of life:

That everything, every thing has value – infinite diversity in infinite combinations.

That bravery is using your mind and intelligence, as well as jumping in and beating up monsters.

That the unknown is not to be feared – it is an opportunity to learn and grow, and new and unusual things can be “fascinating.”

That being different can be an asset, and straying from who you really are might blow up the ship.

That compassion is logical.

That value is measured by actions and character, not where you come from or how you were born.

That even the smartest among us don’t know the answers, and sometimes make mistakes.

These are beautiful ideas, concepts I accept as axioms, philosophy that I want to pass on to my son and hope that he passes on to his children – with an admiring nod of gratitude to the man who gave voice to them, brought them to life so well, as marvelous gifts to the universe.

Thank you, Mr. Nimoy. I enjoyed your performance very, very much.

Originally published Febryary 27, 2015.

Thank You Mr. Nimoy

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  1. As you know, I share your love of the character and the actor. I am also having a difficult time understanding that he is gone. yesterday was a sad day for me. Some may think it silly, but it was a very sad day.

  2. You said exactly what I was thinking: That when a character touches and teaches us, we have many to thank. The creator, the writers, even the rest of the cast can help mold a character. But we give our appreciation to the actor who brought those thoughts and words and ideas to life. And I think that’s appropriate. Nice post. 🙂

  3. I saw this on my phone via email earlier and it was the first I’d heard of his death 🙁
    I love Star Trek. Original and Next Gen. Next Gen more but only because of the age I was when I watched… sigh. It’s so interesting how characters become so important to us – we feel we know them…

  4. This is absolutely spectacular, Elizabeth! 7 p.m. in the evenings sitting on a black vinyl couch, my dad would turn on Star Trek each night. Amazing the childhood memories we have imprinted upon us isn’t it? I own all of the Star Trek movies and the original series. This was one of the celebrity deaths that took my breath away when I saw it on the headline. I was and shall always be your fan, Mr Nimoy. Rest peacefully and prosper…

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